Our labrador/border collie mix, Kona, has a rare gift. When she meets a new dog, she sizes them up almost instantly and adjusts her play to the other dog's needs. With some, she's the aggressor, clearly dominating the other dog in their puppy wrestling matches. With others, she's more passive and allows herself to be the dog on the bottom of the pile.
The size of the other dog doesn't matter. She outweighs her best friend, Naula, by a third but Kona lets Naula win their wrestling matches. On the other hand, she's all over her friend Lola, even though Lola is a much heavier boxer mix. I've seen Kona romp with a great Dane and then play gently with her friend Princess Leia, an 8 pound ball of fluff who thinks she's a great Dane. Kona always seems to know how to adjust her play to her playmate.
We can learn a lot from Kona. If you're going to build an effective team, you need to understand the needs of your team mates. While you may share a common goal, each team member brings a different agenda and level of experience to the team. Motivations will be different. Organizational culture will be different. The trick is to see individuals, not just the team, and have a unique strategy for dealing with each one. Their feeling of inclusion will increase and you'll make quicker progress towards your goals.
Hey, if a dog can do it...